RIDE YOUR DEMONS
40 brutally honest questions women are searching — with tools to take back your power.
1. Why do I feel like I’m not enough, no matter what I do?
- Evidence Flip: Write down 5 things you’ve done in the last week that took strength, even if no one noticed. That’s your proof.
- Mirror Grit: Say one kind thing to yourself in the mirror — not soft, just true. Repeat it until you believe it.
- Cut Comparison: Unfollow 3 accounts today that trigger your insecurity. Reclaim your mental space.
2. How do I stop people-pleasing and finally put myself first?
- ‘No’ Reps: Say no to one thing a day — even if your voice shakes. Start training your worth.
- Boundary Blueprint: Write down 3 non-negotiables you will no longer tolerate. Enforce them like law.
- Self-First List: Schedule one selfish act a day. Guilt-free. You earn oxygen before you save anyone else.
3. Why do I carry guilt for things that weren’t my fault?
- Guilt Filter: Write it down. Ask: Did I cause it, or did I survive it? Rip up what’s not yours.
- Letter to Her: Write a letter to your younger self forgiving her for holding the world up. She didn’t deserve the weight.
- Responsibility Reclaim: Take full ownership of what IS yours. Everything else? Release it.
4. Why do I feel like I have to hold it all together alone?
- The Leak Test: What’s one thing you’ve been hiding to stay 'strong'? Say it out loud. Weakness dies in daylight.
- Support Squad Check: Write down 3 people you trust. If the list is empty, it’s time to build one. No shame.
- Strength Redefined: Make a list of women who inspire you. Notice: none of them did it alone.
5. How do I stop obsessing over my body and start loving it?
- Mirror Neutrality: Don’t aim for love — aim for truth. Look in the mirror and thank one body part a day.
- Media Detox: 7-day cleanse. No filters, no body-shaming media. Protect your eyes like your peace depends on it.
- Strength Shift: List 5 ways your body shows up for you. Lead with function, not flaw.
6. Why does everyone else seem to have it together but me?
- Highlight Reel Killer: Write 5 things people don’t know about your day. Everyone’s hiding something.
- Reality Journal: Write your truth every night for a week — what went right, what didn’t, what was real.
- Comparison Detox: 72 hours without scrolling. Track your peace like it’s money.
7. Why do I keep attracting toxic relationships?
- Pattern Tracker: Write the last 3 red flags you ignored. Learn your pattern. Break the cycle.
- Self-Worth Mirror: Ask: What do I believe I deserve — and why? Answer it without filters.
- Exit Plan Drill: Practice the words: “This isn’t healthy for me.” Say it into the mirror until it becomes muscle memory.
8. How do I stop caring so much about what others think?
- Voice Volume Test: Whose voice is loudest in your head? Write it down. Turn them down. Turn YOU up.
- No-Audience Wins: Do one thing today no one sees — but makes you proud. Internal applause only.
- Unfollow Challenge: Remove one opinion today that doesn't pay your bills or feed your peace.
9. How do I stop overthinking everything?
- Thought Dump: Set a timer for 5 minutes. Write every thought — no edits. Burn the page.
- Decision Rule: If it won’t matter in 5 years, don’t give it more than 5 minutes now.
- Action Interrupt: The second a spiral starts, move. Walk. Breathe. Interrupt the loop with motion.
10. Why do I feel empty even when I’m doing everything 'right'?
- Joy Audit: List what brings you alive vs. what just keeps you busy. Chase the first. Burn the rest.
- Stillness Drill: Sit in silence for 10 minutes. No phone. Just you. What shows up? That’s the signal.
- Meaning Tracker: What’s one thing you did this week that helped someone else? Double it next week.
11. How do I stop feeling like I’m too much or not enough?
- Volume Reset: Write down who told you that. Burn their voice. Replace it with your own.
- Enough List: List 5 things that make you *you*. No edits. Own every piece.
- Circle Audit: Look at who benefits from you shrinking. Cut the ties. Expand anyway.
12. Why do I feel ashamed of wanting more?
- Desire Letter: Write out exactly what you want — brutally honest. No censoring. Wanting more isn’t selfish, it’s fuel.
- Guilt Check: Ask: Who said ambition was ugly? Their rules don’t apply here.
- Daily Dare: Take one tiny action toward your 'more' today. Prove you’re worth the reach.
13. How do I break free from perfectionism?
- Imperfect Action Drill: Post it. Share it. Launch it — before it’s perfect. Messy beats stuck.
- Permission Slip: Write yourself a literal note: “It’s okay to be human today.” Tape it where it hurts.
- Anti-Highlight Reel: Document 3 screw-ups this week. Laugh. Learn. Live anyway.
14. Why do I fear being seen for who I really am?
- Visibility Reps: Show one truth today — a scar, a fear, a dream. No armor.
- Shadow Work: Write what you’re most afraid people will discover. Then ask, “What if that’s my power?”
- Bold Photo Challenge: Post one raw, unfiltered photo with no edits. That’s real power.
15. How do I handle burnout when I can’t slow down?
- Non-Negotiables: Pick 3 things you do daily — no matter how much burns. That’s your baseline.
- Micro-Restore Protocol: 10-minute breaks. Music. Walk. Breathwork. Small rests save the bigger you.
- Say No Drill: Say no to one thing today. Your ‘yes’ needs a shield.
16. How do I stop apologizing for existing?
- No-Apology Day: Go 24 hours without saying sorry unless you’ve harmed someone. Track how many times you break it.
- Replace + Rewire: Every time you want to say “sorry,” say “thank you for your patience” instead.
- Ownership Mirror: Look in the mirror and say: “I deserve space. I belong here.”
17. Why do I sabotage good things in my life?
- Saboteur Tracker: Write down the last 3 times you pulled away when things were good. What were you afraid of?
- Future Letter: Write a letter to the version of you who accepts joy. Read it every morning for a week.
- Trigger Interrupt: When things feel ‘too good,’ pause. Breathe. Say: “It’s safe to receive.”
18. Why do I feel disconnected from myself?
- Body Recall: Ask: Where do I feel this in my body? Move. Dance. Shake. Reclaim it.
- Voice Memo Diary: Talk to yourself like a best friend for 2 minutes a day. No filter.
- One Thing Ritual: Do one thing each morning that’s just for you — music, coffee, sunrise. Anchor to self.
19. How do I rebuild trust in myself after betrayal?
- Micro Promises: Make one small promise to yourself today. Keep it. That’s how trust is born.
- Truth Audit: Write what you saw, what you knew, what you ignored. You weren’t blind — you were hoping.
- Self-Trust Journal: Document one decision a day where you listened to your gut. Watch it strengthen.
20. How do I stop letting my past define me?
- Burn Page: Write the version of you that’s tied to pain. Burn it. Let her rest.
- Rewrite Drill: Take the worst day — write the lesson. Not the story. The strength.
- Future Glimpse: Visualize the woman you’re becoming. Speak to her like she’s already here.
21. How do I stop feeling guilty for taking time for myself?
- Reframe Ritual: Self-care isn’t selfish. Write it down and post it where the guilt starts.
- Reverse Guilt Journal: Track how showing up for yourself made you stronger for others.
- Time Block Defense: Block 30 minutes daily that no one else can touch. Guard it like life support.
22. Why do I struggle to ask for help?
- Ask One Person: Start with one text today: 'Can I talk to you for 10 minutes?' That’s it.
- Origin Dig: Who taught you asking meant weakness? Write their name. Then cross it out.
- Receive Reps: Let someone help you today — even if it’s small. Flex that receiving muscle.
23. Why do I stay quiet even when I want to speak up?
- Speak Up Script: Write a one-liner that defends you. Practice it daily until it’s natural.
- Voice Tracker: Note every time you wanted to speak and didn’t. Review it. Break the silence next time.
- Micro-Bravery Drill: Say one thing this week that scares you. You don’t have to roar. Just don’t whisper.
24. Why does my anxiety feel invisible to everyone else?
- Visible List: Write down what your anxiety looks like behind the scenes. It’s real. Validate it.
- One Honest Share: Choose one person and tell them exactly how it hits you. No shame, no sugar.
- Anchor Object: Carry something that grounds you. It’s not weird — it’s war gear.
25. How do I stop hating parts of myself?
- Name It: Write a letter to the part you hate. Tell it what it did. Then tell it what it survived.
- Part Flip: Ask: What did this trait protect me from? You’ll find power in the pain.
- Mirror Eye Lock: Hold your own gaze in the mirror for 60 seconds. No comments. Just presence.
26. Why do I feel like I’ve lost myself in motherhood or caregiving?
- Daily Self Minute: One minute a day that’s just yours. Music, breath, dancing. Start small.
- Identity List: Write who you were before the title — and who you still are under it.
- Reconnect Date: Schedule time alone. Guilt-free. Not to escape — to remember.
27. How do I handle betrayal or being lied to?
- Truth Rebuild: Write what happened. Then write what it taught you about *you*, not them.
- No Contact Protocol: Cut access if it reopens wounds. Your healing doesn’t require explanation.
- Armor to Wisdom: Let pain shape your standards — not your walls.
28. Why do I crave validation so badly?
- Self-Applause Habit: Every win, say it out loud to yourself. That’s how we build inner noise.
- External Detox: No likes, no comments for a week. Just your truth, posted anyway.
- Validation Audit: Who are you trying to impress — and why? Cross them out. Keep your own name.
29. Why do I always feel like a burden?
- Burden Origin Drill: Who made you feel that way first? Name it. Burn it.
- Worth Reframe: Write 3 ways your presence helps someone. Even if they don’t say it.
- Receive Practice: Let someone support you today — and don’t shrink. Just receive.
30. How do I build unshakable self-worth?
- Evidence Vault: Write 1 win every night for 30 days. You’ll have 30 reasons to believe.
- Inner Child Talk: Look at a photo of young you. Tell her she’s worthy. Every day.
- Standard Set: Write 5 standards for how you deserve to be treated. Enforce them starting now.
31. How do I stop letting fear control my decisions?
- Fear Naming Ritual: Write down your fear. Give it a name. Speak it. Shrink it.
- Worst Case Drill: What’s the worst that happens if you act anyway? Write it. Face it. Decide.
- One Brave Act: Do one thing today you’ve avoided out of fear. Even if your hands shake.
32. Why do I feel so disconnected in my relationship?
- Truth Check-In: Ask: 'What do I miss about us?' Say it out loud — to yourself or them.
- Connection Ritual: 10 minutes a day. Eye contact. Touch. Presence. No phones. No faking.
- Solo Inventory: Are you dimming to stay connected? Reignite yourself first.
33. How do I stop replaying old pain like a movie in my head?
- Loop Break: When the replay starts, say 'not now' and move your body. Disrupt the groove.
- Rewrite It: Write that moment as if you were safe, strong, or saved. Rewire the memory.
- Grief Letter: Write to the version of you who got hurt. Tell her what she didn’t get to hear.
34. How do I stop minimizing my own trauma?
- Trauma Doesn’t Compete: Write: 'Pain is not a contest. Mine counts.' Post it.
- Validation Journal: Write one thing that hurt — even if others said it was 'no big deal.'
- Feel It Anyway: Give yourself permission to cry, rage, or rest — without permission from anyone else.
35. How do I protect my peace without becoming cold?
- Soft Boundary Drill: Say: 'I care about you, but this crosses my line.' Hold it with love.
- Peace Inventory: What gives you peace? What steals it? Guard the first. Cut the second.
- Warm Armor: You can be both strong and soft. Make space for both in how you speak, act, and rest.
36. Why do I feel like I’m always starting over?
- Not a Restart — a Rise: Write: 'This is not a reset. It’s a resurrection.' Say it daily.
- Progress Ledger: List what you’re bringing with you from the last fall. Skills. Lessons. Strength.
- Phoenix List: Write down every time you came back. That’s your proof. That’s your legend.
37. How do I stop defining myself by my trauma?
- New Identity Draft: Write who you are beyond the pain — creator, fighter, builder. Claim it.
- Flip the Narrative: Pain didn’t break you — it built you. Finish this sentence: 'Because of it, I now…'
- Vision Ritual: Every morning, visualize who you’re becoming. Talk to her. She’s real.
38. How do I stop pushing away good love?
- Receive Challenge: Accept one compliment today. No deflecting. Just take it.
- Old Script Check: What story are you replaying? That love leaves? Rewrite the ending.
- Mirror Trust Drill: Look yourself in the eye and say: 'I deserve safe love. And I’m not afraid of it.'
39. How do I reconnect with my body after trauma or shame?
- Safe Touch Ritual: Gently place your hand on your heart, belly, or face. Breathe there. Say: 'I’m safe now.'
- Movement Reclaim: Dance, stretch, walk — not to fix your body, but to feel it again.
- Mirror Kindness Challenge: Stand in front of the mirror and say one kind thing. Start small. Keep going.
40. How do I become the woman I promised myself I’d be?
- Future Letter: Write from her. Describe her. Let her tell you what to do today.
- 1% Rule: Do one small thing daily that aligns with her. You’re not far. You’re building.
- Burn the Past Excuse: Write down what’s been holding you back. Burn it. Watch it rise as fuel.