The "Red Flag" Replay

Purpose / Reason
✅ Revisit the moments when red flags appeared. What did you ignore?

How to Apply

1. List 3 recurring moments from past relationships (facts only).
2. Mark the red‑flag cues you ignored; write a better response line.
3. Choose one cue to honor for the next 2 weeks; set a reminder.
4. Debrief after each encounter—what changed, what to refine.

How & Why It Works

• Making patterns explicit reduces cognitive biases and enables better, earlier choices (implementation intentions).

Results & Goals

• Immediate (0–72h): Fewer obsessive loops; sleep and appetite stabilize; first relief moments appear.
• Short‑term (1–4 weeks): Clearer boundaries and less contact checking; improved mood and energy; more social reconnection.
• Medium‑term (1–3 months): New relationship patterns (secure behaviors); sustained focus on goals; genuine hope and attraction alignment.

Citations / References

• APA — Relationships & Couples
• Gottman Institute — The Four Horsemen
• Greater Good Science Center — Attachment Styles
• EMDRIA — What is EMDR Therapy?
• ACBS — About Acceptance & Commitment Therapy (ACT)
• Linehan Institute — Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT)
• APA — Coping with Grief