Rite of Passage Planner
Tool • Gate: Fathers & Sons
Rite of Passage Planner
Purpose
Answer to: “How do we navigate divorce/stepfamily transitions?”
Rite of Passage Planner (Plan)
1) Define the goal for this week.
2) List 3 constraints (time/energy/people).
3) Choose the smallest daily action (≤10 min).
4) Schedule it.
5) Review on the same day next week.
How & Why It Works
- Implementation intentions pre-bind cue→action, reducing choice paralysis under stress.
Answer to: “How do we navigate divorce/stepfamily transitions?”
Rite of Passage Planner (Plan)
1) Define the goal for this week.
2) List 3 constraints (time/energy/people).
3) Choose the smallest daily action (≤10 min).
4) Schedule it.
5) Review on the same day next week.
How & Why It Works
- Implementation intentions pre-bind cue→action, reducing choice paralysis under stress.
References: Gottman (ATTUNE/repair) framework; Beck (2011) CBT;
Hayes et al. (1999) ACT; APA Family Communication resources