Peer Pressure If–Then
Tool • Gate: Fathers & Sons
Peer Pressure If–Then
Purpose
Answer to: “How do we disagree without disrespect?”
How to apply Peer Pressure If–Then
1) Clarify the problem in one sentence.
2) Pick the smallest action that fits in 2–10 minutes.
3) Do it now; start a one-line log.
4) Repeat daily for a week; adjust after review.
How & Why It Works
- Implementation intentions pre-bind cue→action, reducing choice paralysis under stress.
Answer to: “How do we disagree without disrespect?”
How to apply Peer Pressure If–Then
1) Clarify the problem in one sentence.
2) Pick the smallest action that fits in 2–10 minutes.
3) Do it now; start a one-line log.
4) Repeat daily for a week; adjust after review.
How & Why It Works
- Implementation intentions pre-bind cue→action, reducing choice paralysis under stress.
References: Gottman (ATTUNE/repair) framework; Beck (2011) CBT;
Hayes et al. (1999) ACT; APA Family Communication resources