Non-Negotiable List
Tool • Gate: Women’s Mental Health
Non-Negotiable List
Purpose / Reason
Clarify your hard lines so boundaries don’t wobble under pressure.
Answer to: “How do I set relational boundaries with family?”
1) List three ‘no more’ behaviors (e.g., yelling, late cancellations, unpaid labor).
2) Write the matching consequence for each boundary.
3) Share the list with 1–2 trusted people; rehearse saying it calmly. How & Why It Works
• Precommitment reduces decision fatigue under social pressure.
• Explicit rules + consequences increase follow-through. Results & Goals
• Fewer boundary violations over 30 days.
• Less resentment; reduced mental load tracking infractions.
• More consistent self-respect and relationship stability. References
Clarify your hard lines so boundaries don’t wobble under pressure.
Answer to: “How do I set relational boundaries with family?”
How to Apply
1) List three ‘no more’ behaviors (e.g., yelling, late cancellations, unpaid labor).
2) Write the matching consequence for each boundary.
3) Share the list with 1–2 trusted people; rehearse saying it calmly. How & Why It Works
• Precommitment reduces decision fatigue under social pressure.
• Explicit rules + consequences increase follow-through. Results & Goals
• Fewer boundary violations over 30 days.
• Less resentment; reduced mental load tracking infractions.
• More consistent self-respect and relationship stability. References