Mentorship Without Control
Tool • Gate: Fathers & Sons
Mentorship Without Control
Purpose
Answer to: “How do I apologize and make amends to my son?”
How to apply Mentorship Without Control
1) Clarify the problem in one sentence.
2) Pick the smallest action that fits in 2–10 minutes.
3) Do it now; start a one-line log.
4) Repeat daily for a week; adjust after review.
How & Why It Works
- Small, repeatable behaviors compound into lasting change when tracked and reviewed.
Answer to: “How do I apologize and make amends to my son?”
How to apply Mentorship Without Control
1) Clarify the problem in one sentence.
2) Pick the smallest action that fits in 2–10 minutes.
3) Do it now; start a one-line log.
4) Repeat daily for a week; adjust after review.
How & Why It Works
- Small, repeatable behaviors compound into lasting change when tracked and reviewed.
References: Gottman (ATTUNE/repair) framework; Beck (2011) CBT;
Hayes et al. (1999) ACT; APA Family Communication resources