External Validation Detox
Tool • Gate: Women’s Mental Health
External Validation Detox
Purpose / Reason
Shift from chasing approval to trusting your inner standards.
Answer to: “How do I stop comparing myself to others?” How to Apply
1) Pick one decision today to make without polling others.
2) Write your own success criteria (3 bullet points).
3) Evaluate yourself against those criteria only. How & Why It Works
• Reducing reassurance seeking cuts anxiety cycles.
• Values‑based decisions increase follow‑through. Results & Goals
• Fewer ‘check with everyone’ delays.
• Stronger sense of authorship over your life.
• Less whiplash from others’ opinions. References
Shift from chasing approval to trusting your inner standards.
Answer to: “How do I stop comparing myself to others?” How to Apply
1) Pick one decision today to make without polling others.
2) Write your own success criteria (3 bullet points).
3) Evaluate yourself against those criteria only. How & Why It Works
• Reducing reassurance seeking cuts anxiety cycles.
• Values‑based decisions increase follow‑through. Results & Goals
• Fewer ‘check with everyone’ delays.
• Stronger sense of authorship over your life.
• Less whiplash from others’ opinions. References