Boundary Setting

Purpose / Reason
Establish clear, firm boundaries with family members who perpetuate shame.

How to Apply

1. Name one person/situation that predictably triggers shame spirals.
2. Write a one-sentence boundary or app rule (mute, unfollow, time limit).
3. Implement it now; set a review date in 7 days.
4. Track triggers and your energy; keep/cut/change as needed.

How & Why It Works

• Boundaries reduce cue exposure and interrupt shame spirals, preserving energy for change.

Results & Goals

• Immediate (0–72h): Reduced shame spikes; clearer next steps; a small self‑kind action completed.
• Short‑term (1–4 weeks): Fewer rumination loops; more honest connection; boundaries that protect energy; evidence of values‑aligned actions.
• Medium‑term (1–3 months): Lower baseline self‑criticism; stable habits that express identity; greater resilience when mistakes happen.

Citations / References

• Kristin Neff — Self‑Compassion Research & Practices
• Paul Gilbert — Compassion‑Focused Therapy (CFT)
• Brené Brown — Shame & Vulnerability (TED Talk & research)
• APA — Shame & Guilt Overview
• Beck Institute — What is CBT?
• ACBS — Acceptance & Commitment Therapy (ACT)
• Linehan Institute — DBT Skills