Boundary & Consequence Map
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Boundary & Consequence Map
Purpose
Answer to: “How do we handle anger and respect at the same time?”
Boundary & Consequence Map (Plan)
1) Define the goal for this week.
2) List 3 constraints (time/energy/people).
3) Choose the smallest daily action (≤10 min).
4) Schedule it.
5) Review on the same day next week.
How & Why It Works
- Clear boundaries and structured communication increase safety and predictability in relationships.
Answer to: “How do we handle anger and respect at the same time?”
Boundary & Consequence Map (Plan)
1) Define the goal for this week.
2) List 3 constraints (time/energy/people).
3) Choose the smallest daily action (≤10 min).
4) Schedule it.
5) Review on the same day next week.
How & Why It Works
- Clear boundaries and structured communication increase safety and predictability in relationships.
References: Gottman (ATTUNE/repair) framework; Beck (2011) CBT;
Hayes et al. (1999) ACT; APA Family Communication resources