Apology Repair Cards
Tool • Gate: Fathers & Sons
Apology Repair Cards
Purpose
Answer to: “How do we handle grief together?”
How to apply Apology Repair Cards
1) Clarify the problem in one sentence.
2) Pick the smallest action that fits in 2–10 minutes.
3) Do it now; start a one-line log.
4) Repeat daily for a week; adjust after review.
How & Why It Works
- Small, repeatable behaviors compound into lasting change when tracked and reviewed.
Answer to: “How do we handle grief together?”
How to apply Apology Repair Cards
1) Clarify the problem in one sentence.
2) Pick the smallest action that fits in 2–10 minutes.
3) Do it now; start a one-line log.
4) Repeat daily for a week; adjust after review.
How & Why It Works
- Small, repeatable behaviors compound into lasting change when tracked and reviewed.
References: Gottman (ATTUNE/repair) framework; Beck (2011) CBT;
Hayes et al. (1999) ACT; APA Family Communication resources