1. How do I move on after someone I love dies?

• Tool 1: The Empty Chair Letter: Write a letter to them—rage, love, guilt. This is your release valve.
• Tool 2: Daily Anchor Task: Do one grounded task each morning in their name. Routine brings rhythm back.
• Tool 3: The 'Still With Me' Ritual: Carry something of theirs. Talk to it when the grief spikes.

2. Why does grief come in waves?

• Tool 1: Wave Tracker Journal: Log when grief hits. Pattern brings prediction. You take the control back.
• Tool 2: Ride It Out Protocol: Set a timer. Feel it fully. The wave always crashes. So do you. Then rise.
• Tool 3: Grief Surf Notes: Record what helps each time. Music. Silence. Rage. Build a surf strategy.

3. I feel guilty for surviving

• Tool 1: Survivor’s Creed Rewrite: Write a new mantra—'I’m here. I carry the flame.' Burn it into memory.
• Tool 2: The ‘What Would They Say?’ Mirror: Look at yourself and ask: would they want me stuck in guilt?
• Tool 3: Legacy Project: Start something in their name. Big or small. Purpose fights guilt.

4. I can’t cry anymore. Am I broken?

• Tool 1: Pressure Valve Check: Numb doesn’t mean broken. It means you're maxed out. Shake the system.
• Tool 2: The Soundtrack Test: Play a memory song alone. If it breaks you, good. If not, play again tomorrow.
• Tool 3: Silent Grief Routine: Create daily stillness. No words. No noise. Let your soul breathe.

5. How long does grief last?

• Tool 1: Time Doesn't Heal — *You Do*: Grief stays. You grow stronger carrying it.
• Tool 2: Year One Wall: Track every ‘first.’ Cross them off like scars earned in battle.
• Tool 3: The 5-Year Vision Letter: Write to your future self. Give grief a reason to walk forward.

6. I feel numb after losing them

• Tool 1: The Cold Walk Reset: Walk outside. Feel the sting. It reminds you—you’re still alive.
• Tool 2: Texture Therapy: Touch objects with meaning. Stone, bark, glass. Wake up your senses.
• Tool 3: Movement Over Mood: Move your body. Crying is optional. Momentum isn’t.

7. Why do I feel angry at them for dying?

• Tool 1: The Rage Letter: Write it out. Let the anger live. Then burn it or keep it. Just don’t swallow it.
• Tool 2: Hit Without Harm: Slam a bag. Break a log. Let your grief move through your muscles.
• Tool 3: Flip the Guilt-Anger Coin: Beneath rage is guilt. Beneath guilt is love. Feel it all.

8. I'm scared of forgetting them

• Tool 1: Memory Lock Box: Keep their stuff somewhere sacred. It’s not hoarding—it’s honoring.
• Tool 2: Monthly Memory Meet: Choose a day. Revisit a story. Say their name out loud.
• Tool 3: Tattoo the Truth: Ink their initials. Their motto. Your vow. Carry it forever.

9. How do I grieve when everyone expects me to be strong?

• Tool 1: The Mask Drop: Tell one person, ‘I’m not okay. Don’t fix me.’ Let truth bleed out.
• Tool 2: Private Grief Room: A corner, a car, a closet. One place where you don’t have to be strong.
• Tool 3: The Armor Rebuild: Use grief as metal. Forge new armor. Stronger. Sharper. Realer.

10. Why does everything feel meaningless now?

• Tool 1: The 10-Minute Life Task: Wash a dish. Send an email. Tiny actions reboot the machine.
• Tool 2: Find the Flame List: Write down 5 reasons to live. Even if they’re petty. Especially then.
• Tool 3: The Purpose Rebuild Grid: Make four lists—what’s lost, what’s left, what’s possible, what they’d want.

11. How do I explain my grief to people who don’t get it?

• Tool 1: The Empty Chair Letter: Write a letter to them—rage, love, guilt. This is your release valve.
• Tool 2: Daily Anchor Task: Do one grounded task each morning in their name. Routine brings rhythm back.
• Tool 3: The 'Still With Me' Ritual: Carry something of theirs. Talk to it when the grief spikes.

12. Why do I feel so alone even when I’m around people?

• Tool 1: Wave Tracker Journal: Log when grief hits. Pattern brings prediction. You take the control back.
• Tool 2: Ride It Out Protocol: Set a timer. Feel it fully. The wave always crashes. So do you. Then rise.
• Tool 3: Grief Surf Notes: Record what helps each time. Music. Silence. Rage. Build a surf strategy.

13. I feel like I died with them. What’s left of me?

• Tool 1: Survivor’s Creed Rewrite: Write a new mantra—'I’m here. I carry the flame.' Burn it into memory.
• Tool 2: The ‘What Would They Say?’ Mirror: Look at yourself and ask: would they want me stuck in guilt?
• Tool 3: Legacy Project: Start something in their name. Big or small. Purpose fights guilt.

14. Can I ever be happy again without them?

• Tool 1: Pressure Valve Check: Numb doesn’t mean broken. It means you're maxed out. Shake the system.
• Tool 2: The Soundtrack Test: Play a memory song alone. If it breaks you, good. If not, play again tomorrow.
• Tool 3: Silent Grief Routine: Create daily stillness. No words. No noise. Let your soul breathe.

15. Why am I still grieving years later?

• Tool 1: Time Doesn't Heal — *You Do*: Grief stays. You grow stronger carrying it.
• Tool 2: Year One Wall: Track every ‘first.’ Cross them off like scars earned in battle.
• Tool 3: The 5-Year Vision Letter: Write to your future self. Give grief a reason to walk forward.

16. I never got to say goodbye. How do I find peace?

• Tool 1: The Cold Walk Reset: Walk outside. Feel the sting. It reminds you—you’re still alive.
• Tool 2: Texture Therapy: Touch objects with meaning. Stone, bark, glass. Wake up your senses.
• Tool 3: Movement Over Mood: Move your body. Crying is optional. Momentum isn’t.

17. How do I help someone else who’s grieving?

• Tool 1: The Rage Letter: Write it out. Let the anger live. Then burn it or keep it. Just don’t swallow it.
• Tool 2: Hit Without Harm: Slam a bag. Break a log. Let your grief move through your muscles.
• Tool 3: Flip the Guilt-Anger Coin: Beneath rage is guilt. Beneath guilt is love. Feel it all.

18. I feel like I’m forgetting what they looked/sounded like

• Tool 1: Memory Lock Box: Keep their stuff somewhere sacred. It’s not hoarding—it’s honoring.
• Tool 2: Monthly Memory Meet: Choose a day. Revisit a story. Say their name out loud.
• Tool 3: Tattoo the Truth: Ink their initials. Their motto. Your vow. Carry it forever.

19. Why do people avoid me now that I’m grieving?

• Tool 1: The Mask Drop: Tell one person, ‘I’m not okay. Don’t fix me.’ Let truth bleed out.
• Tool 2: Private Grief Room: A corner, a car, a closet. One place where you don’t have to be strong.
• Tool 3: The Armor Rebuild: Use grief as metal. Forge new armor. Stronger. Sharper. Realer.

20. What do I do with their stuff?

• Tool 1: The 10-Minute Life Task: Wash a dish. Send an email. Tiny actions reboot the machine.
• Tool 2: Find the Flame List: Write down 5 reasons to live. Even if they’re petty. Especially then.
• Tool 3: The Purpose Rebuild Grid: Make four lists—what’s lost, what’s left, what’s possible, what they’d want.

21. What if I didn’t have a good relationship with them before they died?

• Tool 1: The Empty Chair Letter: Write a letter to them—rage, love, guilt. This is your release valve.
• Tool 2: Daily Anchor Task: Do one grounded task each morning in their name. Routine brings rhythm back.
• Tool 3: The 'Still With Me' Ritual: Carry something of theirs. Talk to it when the grief spikes.

22. How do I stop feeling like it was my fault?

• Tool 1: Wave Tracker Journal: Log when grief hits. Pattern brings prediction. You take the control back.
• Tool 2: Ride It Out Protocol: Set a timer. Feel it fully. The wave always crashes. So do you. Then rise.
• Tool 3: Grief Surf Notes: Record what helps each time. Music. Silence. Rage. Build a surf strategy.

23. Why do I feel worse at night?

• Tool 1: Survivor’s Creed Rewrite: Write a new mantra—'I’m here. I carry the flame.' Burn it into memory.
• Tool 2: The ‘What Would They Say?’ Mirror: Look at yourself and ask: would they want me stuck in guilt?
• Tool 3: Legacy Project: Start something in their name. Big or small. Purpose fights guilt.

24. I don’t want to talk about it. Why won’t people respect that?

• Tool 1: Pressure Valve Check: Numb doesn’t mean broken. It means you're maxed out. Shake the system.
• Tool 2: The Soundtrack Test: Play a memory song alone. If it breaks you, good. If not, play again tomorrow.
• Tool 3: Silent Grief Routine: Create daily stillness. No words. No noise. Let your soul breathe.

25. How do I handle anniversaries and birthdays after they’re gone?

• Tool 1: Time Doesn't Heal — *You Do*: Grief stays. You grow stronger carrying it.
• Tool 2: Year One Wall: Track every ‘first.’ Cross them off like scars earned in battle.
• Tool 3: The 5-Year Vision Letter: Write to your future self. Give grief a reason to walk forward.

26. What if I start forgetting their voice or laugh?

• Tool 1: The Cold Walk Reset: Walk outside. Feel the sting. It reminds you—you’re still alive.
• Tool 2: Texture Therapy: Touch objects with meaning. Stone, bark, glass. Wake up your senses.
• Tool 3: Movement Over Mood: Move your body. Crying is optional. Momentum isn’t.

27. Why am I triggered by everything lately?

• Tool 1: The Rage Letter: Write it out. Let the anger live. Then burn it or keep it. Just don’t swallow it.
• Tool 2: Hit Without Harm: Slam a bag. Break a log. Let your grief move through your muscles.
• Tool 3: Flip the Guilt-Anger Coin: Beneath rage is guilt. Beneath guilt is love. Feel it all.

28. How do I grieve while raising kids or being strong for others?

• Tool 1: Memory Lock Box: Keep their stuff somewhere sacred. It’s not hoarding—it’s honoring.
• Tool 2: Monthly Memory Meet: Choose a day. Revisit a story. Say their name out loud.
• Tool 3: Tattoo the Truth: Ink their initials. Their motto. Your vow. Carry it forever.

29. Why does grief hit me out of nowhere?

• Tool 1: The Mask Drop: Tell one person, ‘I’m not okay. Don’t fix me.’ Let truth bleed out.
• Tool 2: Private Grief Room: A corner, a car, a closet. One place where you don’t have to be strong.
• Tool 3: The Armor Rebuild: Use grief as metal. Forge new armor. Stronger. Sharper. Realer.

30. I’m tired of pretending I’m okay.

• Tool 1: The 10-Minute Life Task: Wash a dish. Send an email. Tiny actions reboot the machine.
• Tool 2: Find the Flame List: Write down 5 reasons to live. Even if they’re petty. Especially then.
• Tool 3: The Purpose Rebuild Grid: Make four lists—what’s lost, what’s left, what’s possible, what they’d want.

31. What if I’m not grieving the way others think I should?

• Tool 1: The Empty Chair Letter: Write a letter to them—rage, love, guilt. This is your release valve.
• Tool 2: Daily Anchor Task: Do one grounded task each morning in their name. Routine brings rhythm back.
• Tool 3: The 'Still With Me' Ritual: Carry something of theirs. Talk to it when the grief spikes.

32. Can I still talk to them after they’re gone?

• Tool 1: Wave Tracker Journal: Log when grief hits. Pattern brings prediction. You take the control back.
• Tool 2: Ride It Out Protocol: Set a timer. Feel it fully. The wave always crashes. So do you. Then rise.
• Tool 3: Grief Surf Notes: Record what helps each time. Music. Silence. Rage. Build a surf strategy.

33. Why does grief feel like it’s suffocating me?

• Tool 1: Survivor’s Creed Rewrite: Write a new mantra—'I’m here. I carry the flame.' Burn it into memory.
• Tool 2: The ‘What Would They Say?’ Mirror: Look at yourself and ask: would they want me stuck in guilt?
• Tool 3: Legacy Project: Start something in their name. Big or small. Purpose fights guilt.

34. Why do people say stupid things like 'they’re in a better place'?

• Tool 1: Pressure Valve Check: Numb doesn’t mean broken. It means you're maxed out. Shake the system.
• Tool 2: The Soundtrack Test: Play a memory song alone. If it breaks you, good. If not, play again tomorrow.
• Tool 3: Silent Grief Routine: Create daily stillness. No words. No noise. Let your soul breathe.

35. I feel broken forever. What now?

• Tool 1: Time Doesn't Heal — *You Do*: Grief stays. You grow stronger carrying it.
• Tool 2: Year One Wall: Track every ‘first.’ Cross them off like scars earned in battle.
• Tool 3: The 5-Year Vision Letter: Write to your future self. Give grief a reason to walk forward.

36. What if I want to join them?

• Tool 1: The Cold Walk Reset: Walk outside. Feel the sting. It reminds you—you’re still alive.
• Tool 2: Texture Therapy: Touch objects with meaning. Stone, bark, glass. Wake up your senses.
• Tool 3: Movement Over Mood: Move your body. Crying is optional. Momentum isn’t.

37. Why do I feel like grief has changed who I am?

• Tool 1: The Rage Letter: Write it out. Let the anger live. Then burn it or keep it. Just don’t swallow it.
• Tool 2: Hit Without Harm: Slam a bag. Break a log. Let your grief move through your muscles.
• Tool 3: Flip the Guilt-Anger Coin: Beneath rage is guilt. Beneath guilt is love. Feel it all.

38. How do I date or love again after a loss?

• Tool 1: Memory Lock Box: Keep their stuff somewhere sacred. It’s not hoarding—it’s honoring.
• Tool 2: Monthly Memory Meet: Choose a day. Revisit a story. Say their name out loud.
• Tool 3: Tattoo the Truth: Ink their initials. Their motto. Your vow. Carry it forever.

39. Why do I feel pressure to “move on”?

• Tool 1: The Mask Drop: Tell one person, ‘I’m not okay. Don’t fix me.’ Let truth bleed out.
• Tool 2: Private Grief Room: A corner, a car, a closet. One place where you don’t have to be strong.
• Tool 3: The Armor Rebuild: Use grief as metal. Forge new armor. Stronger. Sharper. Realer.

40. How do I know if I’m healing?

• Tool 1: The 10-Minute Life Task: Wash a dish. Send an email. Tiny actions reboot the machine.
• Tool 2: Find the Flame List: Write down 5 reasons to live. Even if they’re petty. Especially then.
• Tool 3: The Purpose Rebuild Grid: Make four lists—what’s lost, what’s left, what’s possible, what they’d want.